Ectopic Pregnancy: One Woman's Story
"As a woman you always dream of one day having a child. However, sometimes, things don't work out the way you expected. As a young woman myself, I am grateful that my first pregnancy went great. I have a healthy, now 9 year old. But after I had him, I became pregnant 6 more times, and to date, I still only have my precious son. My first ectopic (tubal) pregnancy was hard for me to understand, because I had absolutely no problems with my first pregnancy. I had gone to the doctor, very excited that I was going to be expanding my family, however, when the received the blood test back, my hormone levels were not at a normal rate for how far along I was, so the next couple of weeks, I had to go in and get blood tests done every other day. My levels just didn't seem to be going up the way the should. So the doctor finally did an ultrasound and didn't find anything in my uterus. He informed me that this was an ectopic pregnancy and can be very harmful to my health if I didn't have a shot called "Methotrexate". From what they had told me, the methotrexate shot would dissolve the pregnancy that was in my tube. However, with this shot, you are unable to eat or drink anything with folic acid. Folic acid helps in the development of the fetus. I received the shot and then I was no longer pregnant. The doctors can tell you how you are going to physically feel (there is no change physically with an ectopic pregnancy), but they cannot explain the emotional roller coaster a woman will go through when something like this happens.
A few months had passed by and I became pregnant for the third time. A little leary this time, but still excited. Everything was going great, then one day I started spotting, I immediately called the doctor and they got me in as soon as they could. I had miscarried. Some miscarriages can be painful and some can just feel like bad cramps from your mentrual cycle. Then I had to get a D and C. Again, another emotional roller coaster ride.
I became pregnant once again a year or so later for the fourth time. Again, this one was another ectopic pregnancy. Another methotrexate shot was in my very near future. As my husband and I were discussing if we should even try anymore to expand our family. I was young, 25 years old at the time; what are the chances of this happening again? So we kept trying. I became pregnant for the fifth time. This time another miscarriage. I was referred to a fertility specialist. She was wonderful, she explained everything to me so I can understand. She did an exploratory laporscopic surgery to see what exactly was going on in there. There was scar tissue built up around my right fallopian tube and it was pressing it closed. I became pregnant for the sixth time. Yet another ectopic pregnancy. My fertility specialist went in again and removed my right fallopian tube so this would stop happening. My husband and I could not have been more happy. I still had my left tube that was extremely healthy. When I was 29, I became pregnant for the seventh and final time. You guessed it, another ectopic pregnancy. This time, I couldn't handle the emotional part of losing my sixth pregnancy. I told my fertility specialist, "remove my left tube", she was very reluctant because I was so young, but she did what I asked.
I am very fortunate to have my son. I know some woman out there have been through what I have been through without having a child. I know the pain and heartache that you have been through or are going through. Be thankful for what you have. There is always adoption, surrogacy or IVF. To this day my husband and I still toss the idea around of IVF or adoption. The feeling of never being able to have another child is gut wrenching, but I believe there is a reason for everything. I believe my son is going to go far in life and will need his parents to be behind him 150%, and that is why we were not meant to have anymore children.
There is always a silver lining. I think. Live your life with love, laughter and happiness.
I hope by reading this article you will find that you are not alone in the world, there are many of us that have been there."
-As written by Anonymous
No comments:
Post a Comment